Being in love and having someone love you back is fantastic. You're on cloud nine and truly can't stop smiling. As time passes, you start to think you need this man like you need oxygen.
Then one day, your mister isn’t the same as he was before. Maybe he doesn’t look at you the same way, maybe he doesn’t listen to you or maybe he now treats you like you’re invisible.
You don’t want to come to the realization that your relationship may be coming to an end ... but that's what's happening.
While being rejected and unloved is scary (especially after being in a relationship for so long), loving someone who doesn't love you back will only cause severe heartbreak. It's time to break free. It's time to find yourself again. It's time to use these steps and stop loving someone who doesn't love you back, once and for all:
1. Realize that he doesn’t love you anymore
The hardest step is realizing that he doesn’t love you anymore. It’s difficult to understand how someone who once made you so happy has chosen to step out of your life.
I’m sure you can think of things you once loved, but now you don’t care for. Maybe there’s a place that used to be your paradise, but now it’s a bad memory. Things change constantly, and accepting the fact that your man’s feelings changed (and it’s not your fault) is the first step to healing.
2. Reflect on your needs
Why do you want to be with this person so badly? Does the relationship feel different now that he doesn’t love you? How do you feel about him? What do you expect from him? Do you really want him in your life?
These are just a few of the questions that can help you realize why you’re having such a hard time letting him go. Realizing how to make yourself happy instead of pouring all of your energy into making him happy will help you heal.
3. Be an individual
When you live as a couple, your sense of individuality is transformed from “I” to “we.” You have been functioning as a couple for so long that maybe, just maybe, you forgot how to function on your own.
Well, there’s good news. You lived your entire life without this person, and you fell in love with yourself before you fell in love with him. You are the only one who can rescue yourself — don't think that this heartbreak will ruin the chance to become that beautiful person again.
4. Love yourself first
If you don’t love yourself, you don’t respect yourself. If you don’t value yourself for who you are, no one will. You are the most important person in your life; don't forget that.
5. Strengthen your beauty and inner peace
Part of letting go of unrequited love is getting to know yourself better. You can rebuild, get over your fears, try new things and live your life as as an adventure. Find peace where you can and focus on the future, not the past.
6. Eliminate hope
You have to close the chapter you and that person shared, and move on. You can’t be open to the possibility that he’ll come back to you. If you keep your hopes up, you’ll never forget and you’ll live in the past, imagining a future that will never come. Let life give you what it has to give, and live in the present.
7. Be strong
When you feel that intense pain and think there’s nothing worse that could ever happen to you, be strong. Face life, challenge everything and let the world know you can overcome anything.
8. Fall back in love
You are incredible. You’re unique, beautiful, pure and you should travel through life with that perspective. Fall in love with life, love, freedom and independence. Most importantly, fall in love with yourself.
Remember that something good will come out of this. Your life isn’t over because one person stopped loving you. Everything happens for a reason, and there will come a day when you can love again. You deserve the very best life full of love, but you’ll only realize this once you’ve taken these eight steps and moved on.
Valeria Fuentes, FamilyShare
Profesora en educación especial especializada en débiles cognitivos y Lic. en educación especial. Tiene un Instructorado en estilos, Master en Ritmos y Couch Coreográfica, pero el título que más ama es el de ser madre de sus tres pequeños.
