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Dos and don'ts with children at weddings
If you want to involve the little people in your life then get clued up on the dos, don'ts and dress issues of your teeniest attendants
From the Romans to the royals, young children have long played a significant role as members of the wedding party - and it's a tradition that's making a comeback. If you want to involve the little people in your life and bring a touch of vintage charm to your wedding to boot, then get clued up on the dos, don'ts and dress issues of your teeniest attendants.
THE FLOWER GIRL
Andrew Hawker Photography
They're there to look cute, right? The sight of a mini 'maid clad in a puffy satin number and swathed in ribbons and flowers undoubtedly provokes a chorus of "ahhhs". But the tradition of the flower girl isn't just about enhancing the fairytale factor of the bridal party.
The tradition of flower girls stretches as far back as ancient Rome when a young girl would be charged with carrying sheaths of wheat and herbs to bring fertility and prosperity to the bride and groom. Fast-forward to the Victorian age, and the flower girl would be dressed in crisp white and carried a basket of blooms. Not only is the flower girl thought to represent the connection between childhood and womanhood, she is evocative of the future children the newly weds may have the good fortune to bear.
Today, a flower girl tends to be a young girl under the age of eight who has a close connection to the bride and groom - perhaps a niece, cousin, Goddaughter, a friend's child or even your own child. From a veritable troupe to none at all, the question of how many is entirely up to you, though pairing up two flower girls or a flower girl and a ring bearer is a great confidence booster.
A classic flower girl dress epitomises the 'little princess' style - a girlie vision of full skirts, ruffles and bows teamed with ballet pumps. It tends to complement the bridal gown and coordinate with the bridesmaid dresses, typically via the colour of the fabric or sash; however, any dress that ties in with the style of the wedding - and, most importantly, meets your little lady's approval - will be suitable. Don't neglect the comfort factor; discomfort spells irritability and she will probably want to run around as soon as the ceremony is over. Make sure the dress isn't too long, as the last thing you want is a less-than-graceful stumble down the aisle and a fit of tears.
Dresses Prudence Gowns
Janine Hall Photography
Appoint one of your bridesmaids to keep a watchful eye and ensure she is prepared for the ceremony. Traditionally, the flower girl will process down the aisle prior to the bride, scattering rose petals for the bride to walk over. However, many a tradition has been revised in favour of personal choice - and the order is entirely up to you. She might even carry a small bouquet of flowers, a single bloom or a pomander rather than a basket of petals. Finally, she will be requested to pose for photos - and join in with the party.
THE PAGEBOY
Make like a royal and include a dapper little chap in your entourage. As the male counterpart of the flower girl, the pageboy will also have a close bond with the bride and groom. He will usually be under the age of ten; boys over this age will normally be granted the more grown-up title of usher.
The pageboy will usually wear a dapper combo of a suit, waistcoat and shirt with a tie or cravat and optional hat. It might be a miniature version of the groom's outfit, whether it's a morning suit or even a kilt. Like the other members of the groom's party, his shirt and tie might colour match the bridesmaid dresses or the colour scheme.
Whatever outfit you opt for, make sure it reflects the style of the wedding. If you're having a laidback, beachside celebration, perhaps team a funky shirt and trousers with a pair of shades. Again, comfort is key to a content little chap.
And their role? Well primarily to look butter-wouldn't-melt adorable all day long. A very traditional wedding will see the pageboy carry the bride's train as she makes her grand entrance. If you're having just one pageboy, he will often take the role of ring bearer and will walk either in front or alongside the flower girl, carrying the wedding rings on a cushion. In some cases, these will be replicas and the real rings will be (allegedly) safely tucked away in the best man's pocket; in other cases, the rings will be attached to the cushion with a thread or ribbon. These days, many pageboys are simply charged with the task of walking up the aisle, complete with a smart suit and smile, to a cacophony of coos from the guests.
Make sure your pageboy is acquainted and feels comfortable with the best man and ushers, as this will lessen the likelihood of any emotional moments during the day. Like his female compatriot, he will also have a lot of photo opportunities coming up - so he best practise that pose now.
Remember that young children are unpredictable by their very nature and, if you decide to have small attendants, you need to accept that the odd tantrum, a sudden episode of shyness or a fit of tears might be thrown into the bargain. But it will be worth it for the abundant charm and sheer level of cuteness they bring to your day. And don't forget: treat the little ones to E-number stuffed sugary treats prior to the ceremony, and you will pay. Big time.
words Rebecca Matthews
Copyright WED Magazine 2010
