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Many people wait until the holidays to introduce a new partner to the family. Here’s how to make that first visit go smoothly.
By Hilary Sheinbaum
Spending time with your significant other’s family during the holidays can be stressful, especially if you’re meeting them for the very first time.
While each romantic relationship moves at its own pace, Wyatt Fisher, a clinical psychologist in Boulder, Colo., recommends waiting about three months from when you first started dating to introduce your partner to family members. “Just to make sure the relationship has a good footing, and you’re feeling like this has some potential,” Dr. Fisher said.
To keep that solid standing while attending familial festivities — and maybe get invited back next year — here are some suggestions from relationship and etiquette experts.
Send or Bring a Gift
The general rule of thumb is never arrive empty-handed, said Myka Meier, a founder of the Plaza Hotel Finishing Program in New York, which provides etiquette courses. “It’s not only to show a gesture of that first meeting, but it’s also showing gratitude for the invitation.”
You can send a flower arrangement (not a bouquet) ahead of time. Or, if you prefer having a gift in hand, baked goods, holiday-themed candles or toys for the family pet are appropriate. Ms. Meier warns against gifting alcohol — in case they’re non-drinkers. “You may not know what their preferences are,” she said.
Dress Appropriately
During holiday get-togethers, some families sport formal wear, while others opt for casual, matching get-ups (even pajamas). It’s always a good idea to confirm dress-code expectations with your partner or ask the parents ahead of time.
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