13 Definite Signs a Dumper Wants You Back After a Breakup (2024)

FAQs

How do you know if a dumper will come back? ›

If you average all the reputable research on the ex recovery process and chances of getting your ex back, there's about a 43.5% chance your ex will come back without doing anything. Those aren't exactly betting odds. That means six out of ten times you're probably not going to get your ex back.

There is no easy way to deal with a breakup, but remaining silent actually speaks volumes to your ex. After all, actions speak louder than words! By staying silent, you're telling your ex that you're strong, resilient, and independent. You're relying on yourself — and no one else — for your own happiness.

Male dumper psychology is such that if you do not contact your ex until 60 days post break up he will come back to you. The no contact rule stages reveal that men realise their mistake late. It can take upto 60 days for your man to realise he wants you back.

You might hear their name too often

It may be a spiritual sign that your ex is missing you. Wherever you go, be it a grocery store, a restaurant, or even on the television, you keep hearing their name. This may mean that you both are connected at some level and your ex is experiencing the same feelings for you.

There's no emotional connection

If you're not sharing what's on your mind, it might be a sign that you no longer want a deep connection. Similarly, if you've found that the usual fun banter between you is gone, or it's difficult to have engaging conversations, your bond could be getting weaker.

How do you get power back from a dumper? ›

~In reality, what makes a dumper change their mind is seeing you move on. Knowing that they can't have you after they started to value you, hurts them. This makes them regret their decision because they start to value you differently.

The no contact after breakup psychology will only work if both parties commit to it. There shouldn't be any gray area. You can't ask for a break from the rule when you suddenly find yourself missing your ex or someone you both know is asking a favor to give something to your former partner. It won't work that way.

Most of the time no contact with an emotionally unavailable man or woman works because it gives them the space and the time they need to think about themselves and their relationship. Often dumpers do come back because they have had the time to reflect on their actions and emotions.

A dumper might go from being content with their decision to feeling anxious. They will feel lonely, be mad, question their decision, not know what they want, and learn to cope with reality.

Many guys admit that they want their ex back because new relationships are different than what they're used to. They crave the comfort of familiarity. Being with someone offers security. Some men miss having someone in their life who they can always count on when they need support.

In fact, based on our research you can expect the average ex to begin missing you anywhere between 2.5 to 5.2 months after a breakup assuming you put forth signals that you are “moving on from them.”

We've seen a lot of male dumpers come back when they've seen their partners exhibit healthy behaviors like trying to get over them. But it's not always as simple as having the male dumper ask for them back. In 90% of our successes our clients have had to reach out and move up the value chain with their exes first.

“If your ex is still in contact, and is no longer pining over you, blaming you or stalking you, they're probably over you,” says Tessina. “If your ex is ready to be friendly, especially with someone new you are dating, then they're definitely over you.

How do you know the universe wants you to be with someone? ›

Spiritual Connection: When two people have a lot of common interests or passions in life. You might go off on tangents you never expected, but the other person follows with ease. You feel completely understood or they seem to always check-in and ask if you're following them…

When looking at the timeline of breakups, many sites refer to a “study” that's actually a consumer poll a market research company conducted on behalf of Yelp. The poll's results suggest it takes an average of about 3.5 months to heal, while recovering after divorce might take closer to 1.5 years, if not longer.

His behavior is inconsistent

Another way to tell that he is probably fighting feelings for you is if his behavior is inconsistent. He may be flirtatious and showing off one minute, then acting all awkward and shy the next. Or he may be attentive and then suddenly ignore you.

If he avoids seeing you at all costs even though it is important, it is one of the signs he is heartbroken over you. He knows that when he sees you, the memories will come flooding, and it might be too much for him to handle. Also, he would ensure avoiding places where you are likely to show up.

If your ex is trying to contact you, or maybe even trying to speak to you at weird hours, then it might be a sign they still think about you. Another big sign is social media. If they somehow didn't get rid of you, whether, via an unfriend or a straight block, it might mean that they miss you.

One of the telltale signs he is hurt after the breakup is if he can't stop talking to you. Indeed, he knows you guys have broken up, but letting go is hard for him. He will text you, call to ask about your work and friends, or look for an excuse to hear your voice. These signs mean he cannot accept your separation.

Your ex is so blindsided by the novelty of being in a new situation that he 100% feels he's made the right decision. This stage in the dumpers regret timeline tends to brief. It often only lasts a few weeks to up to a month.

How do you know if power is back? ›

Power has returned. Power is up, along with the corresponding “power is down” when the electricity supply is interrupted. Power is back up.

It may seem cold if they seem like they don't care at you at all but our research has found that isn't entirely true. Dumpers do hurt just like dumpees but they have a different way of processing the grief than you do because they view relationships in a different way fundamentally.

Guilt: Many times the person who ends a relationship feels intense guilt over causing harm to someone they care about.

In most cases, if you give your ex enough space, they will at some point miss you. Of course, that doesn't necessarily mean they're going to get on their hands and knees and beg for you back. For some the “missing emotion” can be fleeting. For others, all consuming.

What Does The Dumper Feel After A Breakup? He probably has similar feelings to the dumpee. He may be feeling like his world's shattered now that the relationship is over, but he may still think he made the right call in ending the relationship. There's a good chance that he regrets the decision, though.

The truth is that most guys will at one point consider coming back after dumping you but that doesn't necessarily mean they will act on it. Deciding whether or not to come back depends on many different factors like the reason for the breakup and if they can find someone they think is better than you.

The dumper and the dumpee, both go through pain, anxiety, fear of loss, jealousy, hate, and reconsideration through different stages. That's why during the No contact the dumper and the dumpee swap the feelings interchangeably.

How long do dumper stages last? ›

It's never definite. It could last as little as a couple of hours and as long as several months. There are many factors that influence it.

This is why all the no contact rules we recommend fall into the 21-45 day time frame. But what the acceptance stage does show you is that for many dumpers there is a clock running. They won't stay obsessed with you forever good or bad. Eventually they too will move on.

Radio silence simply refers to the act of being distant from your partner in order to make him come back to you. When done the right way, it allows your ex to miss and crave you more. It reaffirms and reawakens the feels he has for you, compelling him to come back.

It may seem cold if they seem like they don't care at you at all but our research has found that isn't entirely true. Dumpers do hurt just like dumpees but they have a different way of processing the grief than you do because they view relationships in a different way fundamentally.

If a secure attachment ex broke up with you, they are much more likely to move on from the breakup quickly compared to the other attachment styles. They have so much fortitude and self-confidence that they understand that there is much more to them as individuals aside from their relationship.